How to sleep with your boyfriend for the first time
Talk to yourself first
No, we don’t mean muttering to yourself like you’re losing it. Just make sure you have thought this through and are ready for it. Sex changes a relationship, in both big ways and small, depending on where the two of you are at. Once you’ve been naked and done the deed with someone, you can’t pretend that it didn’t happen! So be sure of yourself, about what you want. If you ask yourself the question “Do I really want to do this?” and the answer is “Yes”, then you have nothing to worry about! But if the answer is “Maybe…”, then give yourself some more time to think about it, then ask yourself again.
It's also good manners to politely decline anything that's too 'out there' for your tastes. No need to make your partner feel like a sideshow freak. A simple "That doesn't really work for me," should suffice.
Be prepared — and avoid awkwardness and stress.
So you've decided to take the plunge and have a sleepover with the person your new boyfriend. Whether it's actually just sleeping or the first time you two do the deed, a first sleepover with someone new is stressful. Follow these tips for an evening of more fun and less anxiety about the things that could go awry.
Remember Why You're There In The First Place.
You like this guy right? The name of the game is to have fun and connect with someone. Also, most guys worry that we think they're filthy slobs and, well, many of them are. So while we worry about keeping our bodies under perfect control, he might be shy about his sink full of dishes, mildew-prone shower or choice of decor. So prepare as best you can, then forget about acting perfect and just enjoy the moment; excessive self-consciousness will only get in the way of enjoying each other anyway!
What the Next Morning Might EntailHaving some semblance of an agenda for the next morning is helpful. If either of you is heading into work early, you might need to set your alarm and be ready to scoot. Or you both may want to linger longer. You don't have to ruin the mystery by asking what he has planned, but it wouldn't hurt to hint around about any specific eventualities to consider. Plus, a little recon makes it possible for you to add a fun surprise to the mix, like bringing the makings for his favorite breakfast if you are planning to enjoy a leisurely morning together.